Believing You Are Not Worthy Blocks You From So Much In Life
When you lack self-confidence, you can feel as though you are not worthy of achieving great things or attaining true happiness in life. Feelings of low self-worth develop from your past experiences and have a profound impact on how you view yourself as well as life’s opportunities.
Let’s examine the origin in feelings of worthlessness as well as how these emotions can be blocking you from achieving what you want in life.
From Where Do Feelings of Worthlessness Come?
When you are feeling unworthy or undeserving in life, you are usually responding to some past hurt that has influenced how you view yourself. Loss, shame, trauma, and other types of adverse experiences can significantly alter your sense of self as well as your worldview. When you experience these as a young person, these pivotal moments can lead you to feel as though you do not deserve happiness or success in life.
Your perceptions of yourself aren’t just based on others’ words and actions, but these do play a profound role in your formation. While some experience bullying or abuse and are able to still believe in their own specialness and abilities, others form very negative self-images that cause them to feel worthless or undeserving in life.
Feeling unworthy manifests itself in many different ways that can negatively affect your life. When you feel like you don’t deserve happiness, love, or success, this can have a dramatic influence on your actions, your thoughts, and your overall well-being. Here are just some of the ways that your feelings of worthlessness may be blocking your own happiness.
Consequences of Feeling Unworthy
When you feel unworthy, it doesn’t really matter what you try to do, since you feel undeserving of any good or accomplishments you achieve. Feeling unworthy can often lead to playing the role of victim in your life, refusing to accept responsibility for anything because everything that happens in your life leaves you feeling worthless.
You Develop Even More Negative Thoughts
When you feel unworthy of happiness or good things in your life, any improvements you achieve in life don’t feel permanent. After all, you can’t possibly stay happy, right? Something will eventually happen to take it all away. The more you believe that you are not worthy of good things, the less positively you think of yourself.
Then, when you have the chance to improve your life, you fail to take action, thereby confirming to yourself that you do not deserve good things. This process can lead to self-sabotaging behaviors and the perpetuation of even more negative thoughts. It’s a vicious cycle that can be difficult to break.
Your Physical Health Can Suffer
When your sense of self is suffering, so does your physical, emotional, and psychological health. Feeling unworthy is a very intense emotion, and it can have significant repercussions on your mental health and your physical self, too.
Coping with Feelings of Unworthiness
From time to time, we all feel unworthy. It’s not the emotion that is so concerning but rather when you are unable to handle this feeling in a mature and healthy way. Learning to recognize then better handle feeling undeserving means you can start believing in yourself.
Start by identifying the origin of your feelings. From where does your sense of un-deservedness begin? Rewrite your story and repeat it to yourself until you start to believe that, whatever past mistakes or trauma, you are worthy of happiness now and in the future. Tell yourself you deserve this each day and keep practicing.
Feelings of worthlessness can be very deep-rooted. You may want to seek professional counseling to help you change your behaviors and move past these emotions. Holding on to these emotions can live you resistant to change and unhappy in life, so make a choice to let go and move on.